Wait, what? It’s that gut reaction, when you have the words formed, but aren’t sure if they should be said. Usually it is followed by an awkward pause, giving you an extended amount of time to rephrase, or change the subject. Some have perfected the art of conversation and are considered witty or sharp, while the ‘non-committal gut-ignorers’ (that’s me) respond by playing shy, aloof, loner, or just plain strange. I am not the only one to admit in missed opportunities to add to the rhetoric, but sometimes it is just that..rhetoric… which in this case I will define as:
“Language designed to have a persuasive or impressive effect on its audience, but is often regarded as lacking in sincerity or meaningful content”
Thank you computer dictionary
In that case, why even speak if what you say is not meaningful? Well, it may not be meaningful to YOU, but if you wish to keep an environment comfortable, the best thing to do is open your mouth and say a few words. If you are like me, when you start to act out what your brain is telling you, it feels as if endorphins are being released, creating a happy sensation. By Golly, is that a character in a play, or is that just you?
None of what I am saying is based on personal research, even though I’m sure I could find at least ten studies that show this to be true. Two days experience proves, to me, that when one follows their intuition, they stop worrying about consequences. Perhaps someone will laugh at your irreverent or silly comment. Perhaps it was offensive after all, in which case, if you’re smart enough, shrug your shoulders, say “Oops!” and blame it on diarrhea. What a colorful world if people said what was on their mind more often. Bad relationships would end quickly, racists would become unemployable, and love would be less confusing.
Perhaps I am over reaching?
Blame the idealist! Making everything seem easier than it is..
However I did hear a most interesting piece on NPR last night about Psychotics. Luckily I tend to record the radio as I am listening to it, so in case I cannot find the clip online, I have it sitting in my recorder. Handy!
LINK TO LISTEN
To bluntly recap the audio:
Some of the most successful people have positive psychotic traits, which is to say they are empathetic and tend to be less violent than the uneducated and immature. Ask Kevin Dutton, author of “The Wisdom of Psychopaths.” The audio interview (above) tells you everything you need to know about the conclusion. Non-violent psychotic traits are encouraged! …Can we get a drug for that?
Done and done.
Oh, so, gut reactions! That’s what I was talking about… instincts. intuition. inner-voice—whatever we call it, it means the same thing. Sometimes it is best to keep it inside, but is it not easier to just apologize if something truly rude or inappropriate comes out? What about being truthful to someone whom you trust? Would a friend leave if they knew what you were really thinking? If the answer is YES, then either you need new friends or a therapist.
When we ignore our gut, it goes straight to our chest. It is still weight, and it is still being carried. Stomach or heart, words or silence. For once in my life, I would rather go for the endorphins and follow through with what I’m thinking, and just do it.